Wednesday, 4 November 2009


You had slogged hard all your life, giving up smallest of the pleasures with a desire for a better tomorrow, when you can have all the fun.

Your penance pays off, and the tomorrow becomes today.

So, now you want to lose yourself and have some fun.
But wait! You have now become a role model. Good enough to be emulated by your brothers and cousins.

All they can see is how much fun you are having and not what went in the process, much much before, when they were too young to understand all that.
They are lost in the sugar coated dreams that you live in front of them and think, it will be theirs, all too easy! Suddenly, it all falls apart for them and they are brought back to the bitter, dark reality called life.

And you feel guilty.

Is it wrong that you feel you should protect your siblings from the harsh struggle that you had to undergo? Or should you just allow them to fall and pick up the pieces and figure it out for themselves?


Sandhya said...

Tough choice there. This happens to most folks who are bracketed in that “role model” slot. And your dilemma is the harsh question every parent/ sibling faces. It’s not easy trying to drill sense into their heads, but the least you can do is give them glimpses of what struggle feels like (without being preachy)- and what it takes to get where you are. Life isn’t easy, the sooner the realization, the better.
My dad has been trying to drive home the point that success isn’t served on a platter for 22 odd years now. It takes time, but it works out fine at the end of the day.

Jyoti said...

Let them figure out themselves ... as usual indeed very deep thought... reminds me of my siblings & cousins !!